| surprise shower--invite all to wedding? - CLICK HERE for the Wedding Forum Home Page |
| kim |
Greetings.
A few days ago, I attended an annual reunion of my fiance's extended family.
Much to my surprise, I was thrown a wonderful bridal shower as part of the
festivities. I was overwhelmed by the kindness and generosity of the family
into which I am marrying.
My dilemma is this: only a particular subset of this group was originally
invited to our wedding; those beyond a certain proximity of relation were
not. Under other circumstances, I would add shower attendees to our guest
list, but our wedding is next week. I will be writing personal and sincere
thank you notes to everyone who participated in this surprise, but I am not
sure if given the short notice, I am also supposed to send wedding
invitations. Space is not an issue as the RSVPs are in from the original
invitations and we know how many more we could accomodate, but I somehow
think that a wedding invitation received within a week of the event would
come off badly.
In addition to the thank yous described above, how else should I try to
respond to the warm welcome this family has given me? Is it the right thing
or the wrong thing to send invitations?
Thanks in advance for any direction,
Kim 8-16-03
|
|
|
| Ericka Kammerer |
kim wrote:
> Greetings.
>
> A few days ago, I attended an annual reunion of my fiance's extended family.
> Much to my surprise, I was thrown a wonderful bridal shower as part of the
> festivities. I was overwhelmed by the kindness and generosity of the family
> into which I am marrying.
>
> My dilemma is this: only a particular subset of this group was originally
> invited to our wedding; those beyond a certain proximity of relation were
> not. Under other circumstances, I would add shower attendees to our guest
> list, but our wedding is next week. I will be writing personal and sincere
> thank you notes to everyone who participated in this surprise, but I am not
> sure if given the short notice, I am also supposed to send wedding
> invitations. Space is not an issue as the RSVPs are in from the original
> invitations and we know how many more we could accomodate, but I somehow
> think that a wedding invitation received within a week of the event would
> come off badly.
>
> In addition to the thank yous described above, how else should I try to
> respond to the warm welcome this family has given me? Is it the right thing
> or the wrong thing to send invitations?
I would contact each one personally and say pretty much
just what you said here--that you were bowled over with their
kindness and that you wanted to extend an invitation to the
wedding, even at this late date, if they were interested in
attending.
I do think that in the case of a surprise shower
in the sort of situation you describe that you are not
*obligated* to send invitations. But given that you seem
to want to do so and you can accommodate the extra guests,
I would think this would be a case where you could do so
without offense. Are these folks local to the wedding?
If it would involve significant travel, it might be a
bit silly as people wouldn't be likely to make travel
arrangements at such a late date.
Best wishes,
Ericka
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
